He Has to Put in as Much Effort as You Do. Actions > Words
I was reading this Chump Lady article, and this part stood out to me:
“You should NEVER have to ask someone to be “nice and caring” to you.”
This advice applies to any romantic situation too, IMO. If you feel disrespected, or you have to do mental acrobatics to convince yourself he cares, he probably doesn’t. If he’s incapable, it’s not up to you to rehabilitate him or settle for scraps. It’s a delusion to think a guy who moves an inch for you cares as much as you do for him when you’re always running a mile.